( I would prefer relocating to major cities)

My prospective better half,

Writing about oneself, especially on a matrimonial site, is fraught with danger. On one hand you have to present yourself at your polished best and yet try to appear modest. On the other hand anything I might commit here might be used against me as, when arguing, girls are too good at digging up old graves. :p

Name Visible on Login (emphasis on later k) is somewhat a unique name. It means anthers of white lotus.

I don't believe in astrology but for those who do, let me assure them that my 'janm kundali' is beset with numerous 'raj yogs'. Although I still wait for their fruition. :P

(Astrologer asserts that lady luck would bring me success :P and friends with interest in Sun signs regard me as a quintessential Scorpio )

I might have been a Brahmin by birth but would rather be one through my deeds. (if traditionally they were expected to be learned and... more wise.)

I am not religious but occasionally a spiritual seeker, though my brain is hard wired not be deterministic and thus uncritical reverence to a belief system or a sect is beyond me.

People recall Name Visible on Login to be precocious since childhood. Like an 'adarsh balak' I waded through school education with decent scores and winning debates, quizzes all the way. As expected out of an above average 'adarsh balak' belonging to indian middle class, I was thrown into the whirlpool of the famed IIT entrance. I believe a lot of creative potential of our nation gets difficult out or gets misdirected due to the mad race for IITs.

Anyways, I managed to salvage a seat in the engineering college of Indore university and somehow trudged through four years of mechanical engineering. I believe educating oneself is a lifelong process and I strive my best not to have my curiosity saturated.

Although exams aren't a true measure of one's potential but I scored 99%ile in CAT when I was in my final year. That's another race we Indians love to take part in. But this time I refused to take admission if the so called magical IIM brand tag was not available which i missed by a whisker.

(Friends pointed out the above info seems boastful and unnecessary but given my experience, in India, matrimonial profiling is akin to resume short listing for a job and I have sailed through interviews by quoting my scores on the question of not doing an MBA).


Ok, I am shamelessly implying that I am intelligent. But not in a geeky way! Though, I have a penchant for depth, an appetite for detail but it is accompanied with a belief that aesthetics matter.Words matter too, so why not use them well?
After a brief corporate stint, I had resigned to prepare for civil services exam to get into the Indian Foreign Service. I always had an attraction towards it. Living in different countries, learning their culture, language, history and polity appeals to me. I tried hard and invested quite a lot of time but unfortunately it wasn't seem to be.

With time one realises, like an individual, no career path or job is ideal. Secondly, nothing is certain, thus one should strive to live the present to the fullest. Though that's easier said than done.

Presently, I divide my time between teaching assignments in colleges, my own venture, making a learning app, writing a book and preparing groundwork for a non profit initiative.

To your parents I would like to convey that their daughter's happiness and lifelong well-being is of supreme importance to me. If they see some spark or a potential, it would be great else I humbly accept my insignificance.

May I also add, I am a firm believer that seemingly intractable situations and complexities could be ironed out through a dialogue. So talk. Share openly your doubts, reservations, moral dilemmas or ethical conundrums.

Once in a while I keep receiving a compliment that I look like Rahul Dravid :)

I understand I might not be as tall and good looking like Dravid but I certainly do possess key personality traits similar to him. So no flashy exuberance of yuvraj singh or the arrogance of virat kohli one would associate with Name Visible on Login. No adolescent like simplicity of Tendulkar either.

Only the steely determination and polite sophistication of Dravid. I tend to be calm, peaceful, exceedingly patient yet resolute in my actions. I am more of an observant listener. Always inquisitive and excited to learn new things.

I believe I am adaptive, accommodative and cognizant of human frailties. ( Apart from my height, which i wish was couple of inches more :P, I could work on any constructive feedback given to me.

I guess like others, I wage a constant struggle between delicious food cravings and to get up early to exercise. It would be good for me if you are a fitness freak. (To keep me on my toes)

Household or routine chores don't interest me. I do enough for survival or what is told to me. (My mother laments it as a failure of her upbringing and believes it would only be rectified by the future girl :P)

A cottage nestled in the verdant greenery of a valley with a fire place, a rocking chair, a shelf of books and a cup of perfectly brewed tea would suffice for an ideal getaway for me.

I would not be the life or attraction of any party or gathering. Your friends or relatives would initially perceive me as aloof, reserved and serious. Honestly, I would always be far more interested in knowing and understanding your thoughts rather than seeking approval from your friends, masi, bua, chacha and your pet!
I get repelled by boastful and frivolous people. They would invite my biting sarcasm. Wise and knowledgeable would always have my respect.

Perhaps youthful idealism has not completely waned off from me. I am principled, value means over ends and believe in incrementally improving the society, city, nation and the world at large. But not at the cost of my near and dear ones.

I hope you are a vivacious girl who is witty, smart, rational, ambitiously independent and respect the same in others as well. I am up for any fun, adventure, new cuisine or travel. Rather I think I am not averse to anything including girl's tantrums! :P

Be rest assured you would be pampered a lot but I would be careful not to over do it. Have picked up few skills which might interest you but lets not reveal them here. :P

To conclude, I was wondering if someone asks me what would you promise to a girl? I would not offer the words like love and happiness ever after stories. Reams of poetry have been written on those emotions. Those are given, that's bound to happen. :)

But based on my limited experience observing other couples, no matter how outwardly cool and suave they tend to project themselves, its generally the girl who has to make subtle adjustments. That would be unpalatable to me.

What I would promise is that lets be utmost mutually respectful and be each other's strength, yet not lose one's individuality.

The way to accomplish it is not to unnecessarily infringe on the liberty of the other, thereby maximizing freedom for both.

That's the principle I live by!

Till we meet one fine day, I remain

Expectantly yours

Name Visible on Login